Slipping into Wednesday

11 May

Billy Joel once wrote, “Honesty is such a lonely word.” Billy may be right, but honesty is the mantra of the day (randomly selected from Daily Inspiration at http://www.elsajoy.com.)

Today’s Save the Word randomly selected word is a verb. (Oh, I love verbs, don’t you?) The word is labascate. This word, which has fallen out of usage since 1727, means to begin to fall or slip.

Well, we’ve all been there, haven’t we?

Labascate seems to suggest that the outcome is not certain. It is the moment when you begin to fall or slip, but you might be able to right yourself before you take a tumble. I know I’ve labascated on wet floors and icy side walks and, on occasion, still managed to stay upright. I’ve always heard that pride goeth before a fall, but somewhere between pride and the fall, cometh the labascating.

Elton John recently made a public statement about his concerns for the way Billy Joel keeps labascating back into drinking. Elton, who should know, recommends rehab. Elton says when he went to rehab he had to clean the floors, but Billy always goes to rehab that has televisions and he needs something tougher. Billy Joel, who says “honesty is hardly ever heard” didn’t seem upset about what Elton said. Of course, I haven’t heard whether he is going to heed Elton’s advice or not.

If I take this mantra to heart, does this mean I have to be excruciatingly honest with everyone I encounter today? Does that mean don’t lie, or does it also mean just blurting out whatever is on my mind. “Where did you get that dress? Not Dress Barn, so much, but an actual barn? I must tell you, in all honesty, you look terrible.” Sure, feelings could get hurt, but how virtuous I will feel knowing that I have been ever so honest.

Of course not. That’s not honesty, that’s just mean (yet fun to imagine…)

I have a meeting with someone today that will require some honesty. Sometimes I use diplomacy. I’ve tried that already with this person and I am not getting through. Now it is time to “bottom line it”–as in, “the bottom line here is…”

I had a conversation with a friend yesterday on the subject of seeking the approval of others and whether being an approval seeker is a flaw as a character trait. People who care too much about what other people think are liable to be less honest, I think. Certainly the Dress Barn line is not something you’d say if you were overly invested in having the other person like you.

I am realizing that as I get older, I do care a bit less what other people think about me. To a certain segment of the population, thanks to the magic of time (age), I am invisible. Can’t worry about what they think because they can’t see me anyway. Just call me Claude Rains.

As for the people who can see me–yes, I want to be liked. I have just lost the impulse that requires me to try to figure out what it is I need to say or do to make another person like me. Oh, I”m still cordial and  if we hit it off, all the better. But not seeking the approval of others, so much, is truly a gift that comes with age and I figure you should embrace every gift that comes your way.

I honestly hope that you have a day filled with sure-footedness and do not find yourself labascating. But if you do slip or fall, just pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and don’t bother to check if anyone else saw you fall.

Happy Wednesday.

3 Responses to “Slipping into Wednesday”

  1. That Weather Girl May 11, 2011 at 6:35 am #

    I love that Dress Barn line!!!!! I am going to share it with my best girl friend today and you can bet we will be saying it to each other – but about someone else.

    And you are right – there does come a time when it really doesn’t matter all that much how others might feel about you. And it does feel good.

  2. Fred Lehman May 11, 2011 at 8:56 am #

    Honestly, I must be living my life backwards. When I was younger, I didn’t care much what others thought of me, but then I didn’t feel dependent on them. I believed they were merely fleeting images in my youth, and indeed most of them were. Now that I am older I find myself more feeling more dependent on others and am therefore more concerned about how, if not what, they think.
    In my youth I was thought wise for my age. Now, I’m just another old fag, trying to atone for my youthful mistakes. Ugh. 🙂

  3. Marian Griffin May 11, 2011 at 2:36 pm #

    This is great and I didn’t even know that Billy Joel had a drinking problem! The older I get I too worry less about what other people think about me. I guess in a way agining is sobering! LOL!

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